For what it’s worth… self worth and a positive mental attitude goes a long way. It has also gotten me through a lot of “stuff” both at work, and at home. I just power forward and things seem better, eventually! Hugs Ms Chrissy!
Cryptic or not, the heart of your conflict seems clear: keeping this secret is forcing you to be inauthentic. And apparently, so inauthentic it’s making you physically sick. (Feels like I know something about that.) You frame this as as a choice, but your body is giving you every signal that what you need to do isn’t optional. Don’t be afraid to listen to it.
Then you can focus on articulating what you need to do and why to the person who made the ask; maybe that will prompt them to take a close look at the fear that is making them silent - and the potential freedom of release?
Ultimately though, you’re making a choice between the relationship with this person or yourself. Why would you be less important?
Wisely said. And, I think that in my heart, I long ago made the decision that I need to open up. I’m at the point now where I know there may be potential fallout, and I’m trying to figure out how to minimize it. Through all this contemplation (perseveration?), though, I’m reminded that I can’t control outcomes. I’m about to take a big step, and I’m trying to do it with as much compassion and intention and integrity as I can. Truthfully, I’m so exhausted by the mental gymnastics though, and everything’s leaking out (literally and figuratively) as I put off speaking out. It will happen though.
Thank you for reading and for offering such kind words.
For what it’s worth… self worth and a positive mental attitude goes a long way. It has also gotten me through a lot of “stuff” both at work, and at home. I just power forward and things seem better, eventually! Hugs Ms Chrissy!
Cryptic or not, the heart of your conflict seems clear: keeping this secret is forcing you to be inauthentic. And apparently, so inauthentic it’s making you physically sick. (Feels like I know something about that.) You frame this as as a choice, but your body is giving you every signal that what you need to do isn’t optional. Don’t be afraid to listen to it.
Then you can focus on articulating what you need to do and why to the person who made the ask; maybe that will prompt them to take a close look at the fear that is making them silent - and the potential freedom of release?
Ultimately though, you’re making a choice between the relationship with this person or yourself. Why would you be less important?
Wisely said. And, I think that in my heart, I long ago made the decision that I need to open up. I’m at the point now where I know there may be potential fallout, and I’m trying to figure out how to minimize it. Through all this contemplation (perseveration?), though, I’m reminded that I can’t control outcomes. I’m about to take a big step, and I’m trying to do it with as much compassion and intention and integrity as I can. Truthfully, I’m so exhausted by the mental gymnastics though, and everything’s leaking out (literally and figuratively) as I put off speaking out. It will happen though.
Thank you for reading and for offering such kind words.